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Dressing a Postpartum Body / Own It Mama

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Today’s post continues my dressing a postpartum body series that I started several weeks ago. I’ve been letting this one simmer in my brain for a long while now — trying to determine how to best articulate my thoughts. I guess we’ll see how well cooked they are ;)

Also? My shirt is totally on inside out in the photos above.  Ahhhhhhhhh… Yep.

Let me start of by talking about expectations. Like in any case, expectations play a huge role in the mindset during postpartum.  And for some reason (I have thoughts about this, but ultimately they are irrelevant) nowadays the expectation for a postpartum mom is to get back to her old self. Feel like her old self again. Look like her old self again.

Are these appropriate expectations? Honestly? No.

EVERYTHING is altered. Everything.

We don’t feel the same. We don’t eat the same. We don’t sleep the same. We don’t shower the same.  Heck we can’t even go to the bathroom the same as we did before. Why do we want to look the same?

Now, I think I’m coming off a little more negative than I’ve intended to here, but over the last few months I’ve identified something…

There is a distinct difference between acceptance vs. owning.  I believe that most women, including myself, merely accept their new postpartum body. They choose to be okay with the now, maybe even happy with the now. But truly don’t embrace it, own it. You know?

Mama…

OWN IT. Own it!

There is something that just clicks when you make the choice to own your body. To be proud of it exactly the way it is and not just accept it and like it for the short term — until you can “get your body back”.

It’s uplifting. Lightening. Unveiling. Freeing. Heck you might even realize that — media and culture’s ideals aside — you like your body even better than you did before! That’s right I said it!  I like my body more now than I did before I was pregnant.

I like the face that stares back at me in the mirror. It is tired, but it has wisdom. I like my belly. Although it’s been stretched and is much softer than it’s ever been, it feels like home.  I mean it was a home for Pete’s sake. And if I’m being really honest with myself? I was just as self conscious of the tiny and taut waist it once was as I am of the one I have now. And my boobs? Well, I never really had them before now. And I guess it’s kind of fun. Lol.

I don’t mean to say that all of my self doubts and insecurities have magically vanished — that would go against human nature.  But — if I am quiet, and I manage to drown out the noise of the world around me, the truth I hear from inside me is: I love this body.

These strong arms that are able to carry both of my babies at once, and at anytime. These hips that support the tiniest of butts as I shuffle (or jog) around with babies clinging to me — inevitably pulling my shirt down to reveal the ever changing size of nursing breasts. These even stronger thighs that never fail to thrust me into the air no matter how many bodies, diaper bags, coolers, coats or laundry baskets are weighing me down.

I believe we are all not only given the chance to reinvent ourselves during postpartum but what other women’s exceptions get to be during their own postpartum period — and the type of dialogue that should exist.

I love my body.

Do you?

Top: H&M (old), similar
Bottoms: American Eagle

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10 Comments

  • Reply
    Ashlee
    January 13, 2016 at 12:34 pm

    Amen and amen! Beautiful words. I’m even tearing up a bit as I watch my own little red head playing beside me:)

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      Laura
      January 13, 2016 at 3:27 pm

      Awww! And now I want to tear up. Haha! Thank you Ashlee.

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    Meg
    January 13, 2016 at 2:34 pm

    Well written and such a valuable conversation! Thank you for leading the way and setting an example. I love my body too (after 4 babies!) and it’s only when I think about society’s expectations that I feel dissatisfied.

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      Laura
      January 13, 2016 at 3:26 pm

      Thank you so much Meg! And Amen mama!

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    Sarah
    January 13, 2016 at 3:13 pm

    PREACH, girlfriend. I am loving this.

    I just had a conversation with my sister-in-law, days before she had her first baby. She was telling me how she couldn’t wait to have the baby, to work out, to feel normal and like herself again. And while I nodded, I thought, oh girl, you are never going to feel like your old self again. But how do you say that without it sounding negative? but it’s not a negative thing! I do not feel like my old self in any capacity. But I love my new self more than I ever thought possible. I give myself more grace, more time, more acceptance – and I hold myself to a higher standard across more categories.

    I think one of the major shifts is before I had my baby, I viewed my body as a something that should be aesthetically pleasing – I worked out to look good, I dieted to look good, I dressed to look good. And now, I respect my body for what it has been through and what I ask it to do. As you stated, my hips are necessary to hold my baby, my thighs are strong to carry him up the flights of stairs. I eat to set an example and to live a long healthy life. For some, becoming a mom is not necessary to develop this mindset, but for me, it was.

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      Laura
      January 13, 2016 at 3:25 pm

      Yes, yes and yes! Just. EVERYTHING you said. Lol.

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    Lauren @ Lauren, Etc.
    January 13, 2016 at 10:24 pm

    Yes! This post is so important for me to read even now that I’m 17 months postpartum. I thought I had made peace with my body. I even finally bought new undergarments. But after reading this, I realized the resentment is still there, lurking below the surface. Thank you for helping me to recognize that I still need to forgive my body, except that everything can’t be perfect, and move on!

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      Laura
      January 14, 2016 at 9:10 am

      Oh Lauren, thank you so much for sharing this with me. You’re doing great mama!

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    Jessica
    January 16, 2016 at 2:16 pm

    Love this. Your post, along with a few others I have read suggesting the idea of banning resolutions to improve yourself and instead celebrate yourself totally speak to me these days. Great work!

    I have been working on the owning it part. My body is awesome. Why should I feel ashamed of it, try to hide it, or make excuses for it.

    • Reply
      Laura
      January 18, 2016 at 4:04 pm

      Thank you Jessica, so glad to hear!

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